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Here’s from Kill Bill soundtrack. Shivaree - "Goodnight moon ". Beautiful dreamy voice just read along to the lyrics while you listen to the song…

There’s a nail in the door
And there’s glass on the lawn
Tacks on the floor
And the TV is on
And I always sleep with my
guns when you’re gone

No it won’t be too soon ’til I say
goodnight moon

When a GIRL is quiet … millions of things are running in her mind. When a GIRL is not arguing … she is thinking deeply. When a GIRL looks at u with eyes full of questions … she is wondering how long you will be around. When a GIRL answers " I’m fine " after a few seconds … she is not at all fine.

When a GIRL stares at you … she is wondering why you are lying. When a GIRL lays on your chest … she is wishing for you to be hers forever. When a GIRL wants to see you everyday… she wants to be pampered. When a GIRL says " I love you " … she means it. When a GIRL says " I miss you " … no one in this world can miss you more than that.

Life only comes around once make sure u spend it with the right person …. Find a guy … who calls you beautiful instead of hot. who calls you back when you hang up on him. who will stay awake just to watch you sleep. Wait for the guy who … kisses your forehead. Who wants to show you off to the world when you are in your sweats. Who holds your hand in front of his friends. Who is constantly reminding you of how much he cares about you and how lucky he is to have you. Who turns to his friends and says, " That’s her!! "

Whoever called it "morning sickness" must have been a man. Becoz he certainly didn’t get the-all-day, all-the-time-triggered-by-almost-any food with a smell kind of nausea that I got!

"morning sickness"

Sigh*

With all the sickness, aches and pains pregnancy can feel like a full-time job itself. So coping with the day job as well can be a challenge for me.  Being tired and nauseous in the office isn’t a very pleasant experience!

Almost every morning I ring in the office but I was normally in by 9++am. Fortunately, my boss and colleagues are very understanding.

I am still keen to work but I know that I have to take plenty of rests and always put myself and my baby’s health first for now, I need to lower my standards when the baby comes anyway…..

Sigh*

Sure, there are good things about being pregnant - nurturing a new human being –

Sigh*

How time flies. It seemed like only yesterday that I was unattached. Now, I am a mother to be, a wife. As I reflect back on the past year alone, I realize the drama that surrounds me. I see how my life has changed physically, emotionally and mentally.

Sigh*

Sometimes, I wish I could turn back the clock… sometimes. Not all the time.

I just wished…

Love is awesome, but it makes you stupid. Marriage is awesome, but it makes you grow up.

Don’t step into this without being able to answer honest questions. Think objectively: if he came to you and asked you to elope tonight, would you say yes? If you got married, and he got into a horrible, disfiguring accident, would you stay married to him and help him through the rest of his life? If you got married and you got into a horrible, disfiguring accident, would you expect him to stay with you for the rest of your life? If you got married, and 6 months later, you both lost your jobs, and he couldn’t find work for over a year, would you stay married and support him while he looked for work?

If the answer to any of these questions is no, then this is not the marriage for you. Marriage is forever, better and worse, richer and poorer, sickness and health. And all things are possible.

If the answer to these questions is yes, then get on with it and quit worrying. You will make your husband better than he would be by himself, and he will make you better than you would be by yourself.

When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes. Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn’t seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why? I avoided her question.

This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn’t talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer, she had lost my heart to a lovely girl called Dew. I did’nt love her anymore… I just pitied her! With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Dew so dearly.

Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now. The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn’t have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Dew. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again. In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn’t want anything from me, but needed a month’s notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month if we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a months time and she didn’t want to disrupt him with our broken marriage. This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that everyday for the month’s duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy.

Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request. I told Dew about my wife s divorce conditions. She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully. My wife and I hadn’t had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed.

So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mummy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don’t tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office. On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest.. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn’t looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.

On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn’t tell Dew about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger. She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily. Suddenly it hit me, .. she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head. Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it’s time to carry mum out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day. But her much lighter weight made me sad.

On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn’t noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office… jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind… I walked upstairs. Dew opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Dew, I do not want the divorce anymore. She looked at me, astonished. Then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Dew, I said, I won’t divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn’t value the details of our lives, not because we didn’t love each other any more. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart.

Dew seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote: I’ll carry you out every morning until death do us apart. The small details of our lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property , the money in the bank, blah..blah..blah. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves.

So find time to be your spouse’s friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!

- Author unknown

P/s a lighter note, I’m not sure if the men can still carry their wives anymore… hehe.. Not exactly the same size as before..

"We all want, above all, to be heard - but not merely to be heard. We want to be understood - heard for what we think we are saying, for what we know we meant." –Deborah Tannen

I am somewhat for it. I believe it is an excellent opportunity to get to know each other better. From there you can decide whether or not marriage is an alternative or not. I was raised up in a religious family that believes that living together is wrong because it gives you an opportunity to have pre-marital sex. I feel that if the couple is already having an intimate relationship then living together doesn’t really affect that belief because by religion they have already broken that rule. Two wrongs do not make a right, but if they intend on keeping an intimate relationship it doesn’t matter whether they live together or not. I guess it all comes down to the couple. I believe they shouldn’t if they have religious reasons, also it would put the family’s mind at ease. But if religion doesn’t play a factor in this decision, then go for it. It is a decision not to be taken lightly. But I don’t find it wrong if made with your heart in the right place. I am bound to respect my family’s wishes for religious reason’s. Although in my personal opinion I would live with someone that I was truly in love with and intended to marry. For me it just comes down to pleasing my family or pleasing myself.:)

Woman often tell themselves that they need to keep some secrets from their men. Well, the inverse is true as well….

Things guys don’t tell you…

-à There are certain things that your woman should never find out about you. For instance, she doesn’t need to know about the hot girl who works at your office, and you don’t want her to know that you cried for a week after your ex dumped you flat.

After all, you always need to maintain some leverage in your relationship. And as soon as your lady has all the goods on you, the power distribution will have shifted dramatically. Furthermore, keeping some information to yourself might help keep her honest, and it saves you from the risk of public embarrassment.

Here are the top 10 things your gal should never know about you. Keep this valuable info to yourself, but remember this: If your woman can potentially find out about any of the following from another source, you might as well give it up right now. If she discovers any of your little secrets by means of an alternate party, you’ll have to deal with her crap over both the information in question and the fact that you tried to cover it up

1. Your conquest count

Look, you know how many chicks you’ve bagged and it’s probable that some of your friends do, too. But that’s where this circle of info should close. It’s not necessary to give your current lover a running tally of conquests. Sure, you both want to be safe when it comes to sex. And I encourage you to get yourself tested to prove to both her and yourself that you’re clean (of course, she should do the same). But there’s no need to divulge numbers — doing so will upset her and put you at risk of spending the night alone.

2. Your income

As a relationship progresses, it is natural that a couple grows familiar with each other’s finances. But in the early stages of dating, there is a very sound and reasonable argument for playing your personal monetary value close to the vest. Two words: gold diggers. You could have the bank account of Donald Trump or the debts of Mike Tyson; either way, she shouldn’t know. Let her dig you for you first. Then, if you’re flush, you can buy her the stuff she likes and such. And if you’re broke, she’ll either ditch you because you don’t buy her stuff, or she’ll prove that she’s a worthy character by sticking with you. So keep your Benjamins to yourself.

3. The location of your porn stash

Guys like porn. A lot of chicks do, too. There’s no sense, however, in mixing up your fantasy world with the real one. As soon as your lady gets wind that you have a porn stash, there’s a good chance that she’ll be crying about how she has to compete with Jenna Jameson whenever she sleeps with you. And man, you do not need that kind of stress every time you want to get it on. Worse still, she could get all crazy and throw out your collection when you aren’t looking. Protect your porn, and keep it under wraps.

4. Your weaknesses

Maybe you cry during insurance commercials, or maybe you aren’t really as self-confident as you make yourself out to be in public. These frailties don’t matter — as long as she never finds out about them. If she does, she’ll start making all sorts of "cute" jokes at your expense. Or the revelation that her man isn’t quite the man that she thought he was will put her off of you entirely. Be strong and keep your weaknesses undercover.

5. Your strip club experiences

Do you like going to peeler bar? Enjoy watching the ladies dance around erotically for your pleasure? Want to maintain the strip club as an open option for an evening’s entertainment? Then do not tell your woman that you go there. Don’t even concede that you used to go regularly. She’ll want to know why you like it, and how much you spend on "tips" for the girls. Even those women who claim to have no problems with strip clubs will somehow twist this habit of yours to their advantage. Simply put, this is a conversational road you do not want to go down.

6. Your weirder fantasies

Certain fantasies should be shared and enjoyed together. But you may be into freaky stuff that she just wouldn’t understand. Maybe your sexual fantasies involve garden tools or shellfish, and you’re just not sure if your lady will appreciate them. Well, there’s a good chance that she won’t. There are certain daydreams that you and your imagination should take care of on your own, and that you shouldn’t divulge to your lady. Once she knows what dark thoughts are running through your mind, she may head for the door faster than you can say "gimp."

7. Your masturbation frequency

Women know that guys masturbate. It’s a fact of life. But your woman doesn’t need to know the frequency, duration and tools that you use to get off — it might just pique her curiosity. A guy wants to be alone when he’s playing with himself, and you don’t need her trying to sneak up on you when you’re having some "personal time."

8. Your ex-girlfriend memorabilia

You might have kept naked pictures of your exes. Maybe you’ve stashed away their love letters or their panties. Heck, you may have a whole database of their names and personal info in an Excel spreadsheet. Whatever the case, never let your current squeeze find out about your memorabilia. Even if she’s willing to leave the past in the past, you can bet that she won’t balk at dropping their names as ammo in future fights. For example: "I see then. I guess Melissa would have never done that, would she?" Get the picture? Besides, these are your private memories — your new girl just doesn’t need to know.

9. Your embarrassing moments

We’ve all had them. And I’m not just talking about light embarrassment, like farting in public or getting caught in a Freudian slip. I’m talking about severe, crippling embarrassment, on the scale of soiling the sheets or having an ex post an indecent picture of you online. If you’ve suffered this kind of monstrous humiliation, she should not get a whiff of it. The idea of it and the accompanying visual will surely blow your cool factor right out of the water, and leave your woman killing herself with laughter. It’s not the best way to remain slick, and there’s a good chance that she’ll never look at you in the same light again. You’ve already lost your pride once over the incident; there’s no need to relive the experience.

Many times life ushers in new things and we don’t realize how those changes have affected us until later on. When you’ve exhausted your past, it’s time to create new interests and history. Instead of talking about what has happened in your life, talk about what’s happening now, or what you want to have happen. In life we all need new activities and interests to keep us entertained. If we allow ourselves to become too comfortable, we get stagnant. It’s passion that fuels our daily lives. The more passionate and exciting you can make your life, the more interesting it will be…